The Goal of Marriage

(Amrit Pal Singh ‘Amrit’)

You can enjoy a thing, which is different from you.

You enjoy food, because food is different from you. Food is not the part of your body or mind. It is different thing from you, so you can enjoy it.

You enjoy cloths, because cloths are different from you. Cloths are not part of your body or mind. These are different things from you, so you can enjoy them.

You enjoy flower, because flower is different from you. Flower is not the part of your body or mind. It is different thing from you, so you can enjoy it.

You enjoy your wife or husband (spouse), because your wife or husband is different from you. Your wife or husband is not the part of your body or mind. He or she is different person from you, so you can enjoy him or her.

You can enjoy a thing, which is different from you. You can enjoy honey, because it is different from you. How can you enjoy your own eye? You cannot; because it is a part of your body.

We think everything is different from us. We cannot think that whole universe is one; we are just a part of it. We are not different from it.

If we think, we are different from it, then it is a sin.

If we think, we are different from flower, then it is a sin.

If we think, we are different from our spouse, then it is a sin.

God wants unification (ektava). We will have to achieve the unification (ektava) with God, with our spouse.

If you enjoy your spouse, without attaining unification (ektava) with him/her, you are just making a sin.

When you catch your own hand with your own hand, how do you feel?

Do you feel like sexuality?

No, you do not feel like that, because that hand is a part of your body.

Similarly, if you catch your spouse�s hand, you should not feel that it is somebody else. Think, as it is a part of your own body. It is the unification (ektava) with your spouse, which God wants.

If you touch your spouse, and you feel he/she is part of your own body, then you have attained the unification (ektava). Now you are husband and wife. If not, then you are just enjoying a prostitute.

To attain the unification (ektava) with your spouse is the goal of marriage. If you attained it, you are pass; if not, then you are fail.